We see shoes, then trousers, shirt or jacket along with hands, and finally the face of the hopeful man.As he is arriving, we cut to the women as they watch eagerly.Several times a day I hear the theme song from If You Are the One, the hit Chinese dating show, blaring from my co-worker’s cell phone: It’s an embarrassing techno mix with a man’s voice wailing, "Can you feeeeel it?!" But what really makes me cringe is something else.“If I was your girlfriend, would you let your belly be my pillow?” another chirpily asks her plump admirer, who is visibly bewildered.
This is a female gaze – a delicious reversal of the norm.
It’s not the show’s blatant materialism, or the Chinese government’s aversion to the program.
It’s the fact that I was once a contestant on the show.
While all contestants must be fluent in Mandarin, according to Han, several non-Asian candidates have applied.
For Chinese contestants and their parents, such diversity might not be easy to take.